Or so I thought...
Posted 03-13-2009 at 03:09 PM by abaya
There I was, thinking that I was finally done traveling long-distance for a while, and would be able to settle in and work on my dissertation, get into a gym routine, etc. Nope, not yet. Not until April, I guess.
There has been a rather tragic death in my Icelandic family, and while I was not terribly close to the person who passed away (at least, in recent years), I have decided that it's important for me to be there for the funeral and to stand by them. Even though I have issues with that side of the family... or maybe it's *because* I have issues with them that I want to go, I don't know. I'm still working out the reasons for why I decided to go. But I knew that I had to be there, and it was a personal decision. Ktsp, as always, supports me unconditionally with this stuff, for which I am very, very grateful.
So I got the tickets, and will be there for the casket viewing and the funeral. There are times like these, very rarely, but they do happen... when I wish that my father were still alive, to navigate these things for me and be there as a bridge between me and his family. As it is, he has never been there, so I just have to make do on my own... something I haven't done in a while. It was easier when ktsp was with me in Iceland, because he was a very helpful buffer to fall back on when my family was difficult.
But ktsp cannot come with me this time because it's too expensive, and he's in the middle of job interviews (and that is happy news!). It's been several years since we've been apart for this long... and I haven't flown without him by my side since we got married. I'm going to miss him in Iceland.
Anyway, I'll be back again in April, sigh.
There has been a rather tragic death in my Icelandic family, and while I was not terribly close to the person who passed away (at least, in recent years), I have decided that it's important for me to be there for the funeral and to stand by them. Even though I have issues with that side of the family... or maybe it's *because* I have issues with them that I want to go, I don't know. I'm still working out the reasons for why I decided to go. But I knew that I had to be there, and it was a personal decision. Ktsp, as always, supports me unconditionally with this stuff, for which I am very, very grateful.
So I got the tickets, and will be there for the casket viewing and the funeral. There are times like these, very rarely, but they do happen... when I wish that my father were still alive, to navigate these things for me and be there as a bridge between me and his family. As it is, he has never been there, so I just have to make do on my own... something I haven't done in a while. It was easier when ktsp was with me in Iceland, because he was a very helpful buffer to fall back on when my family was difficult.
But ktsp cannot come with me this time because it's too expensive, and he's in the middle of job interviews (and that is happy news!). It's been several years since we've been apart for this long... and I haven't flown without him by my side since we got married. I'm going to miss him in Iceland.
Anyway, I'll be back again in April, sigh.
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Sorry about the death in the family. Wow, such a long trip...why staying so long?Posted 03-14-2009 at 08:16 AM by Cynthetiq
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Thanks. I'll be back March 26, but I know it's going to take me a few more days to get sorted out again after that. It's a royal pain in the ass getting to and from Iceland now that Minneapolis is closed all winter (as a hub). Takes me a day to cross the US, then spend a night and a whole day in Boston... then fly overnight to Iceland, and arrive the 19th. Viewing is that day... and then the funeral is the 24th (I thought it would be much earlier than that, hence the flight change drama yesterday), and I fly out the 25th. Have to stay another night in Boston before flying back to Seattle.Posted 03-14-2009 at 10:56 AM by abaya
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o hey--if you're stuck in boston we should meet up. tiny town is about 45 minutes north.
sorry to hear about the death in your family and best of luck with the attending sturm und drang...Posted 03-14-2009 at 10:59 AM by roachboy
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Hey rb, that might work out--I'm staying with a good friend overnight on the 17th, but she's a med student so I assume she'll be in the hospital all day on the 18th. I fly out at 9:30pm... if you happen to be able to meet anytime that day, let me know.Posted 03-14-2009 at 11:02 AM by abaya
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i check into it and let you know monday---i have the idea of an appointment wedged into my brain, but it's on my work machine and i can't access it from here.Posted 03-14-2009 at 11:07 AM by roachboy
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