earth shattering news
Posted 12-04-2008 at 08:51 PM by dlish
i'm 10 minutes from leaving my apartment to go to the airport on my way to Yemen when i recieved a call from Home in Sydney. it was she-lish. i don't know how to take it.
i've mixed emotions and totally confused. it was so considerable that i had to note it here.
i'll be on my way now...ill be back in a week
i've mixed emotions and totally confused. it was so considerable that i had to note it here.
i'll be on my way now...ill be back in a week
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baby-lish?Posted 12-04-2008 at 09:06 PM by Cynthetiq
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Whatever the news is, dlish, I hope everything turns out for the best, cause I'm totally confuzzled.Posted 12-04-2008 at 09:44 PM by snowy
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i hope it's a baby-lish... all the other stuff i can think of that might get that kind of reaction is not so good.Posted 12-04-2008 at 09:48 PM by Supple Cow
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Wishing you and she-lish only the best, my friend, whatever it is that is shattering the earth.Posted 12-05-2008 at 07:36 AM by grumpyolddude
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Mixed emotions mean that some of the emotions are positive, right?... at least, that's my attempt at optimism here! I hope everything turns out all right, whatever the big news may be... inshallah.Posted 12-05-2008 at 07:42 AM by abaya
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I really hope you're doing ok. Keep us updated.Posted 12-05-2008 at 12:03 PM by genuinegirly
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Talk about inconvenient timing to break any kind of news.Posted 12-05-2008 at 09:10 PM by shesus
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I hope everything is ok with you and she-lish. Have a good trip!Posted 12-07-2008 at 06:27 AM by little_tippler
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sorry i was so vague...it had my life spinning for the next 3 days.
ive had a week to think this through... i just got back from yemen about 2 hours ago now.
my apologies for being vague..it was an inopportune time for the phone call. i just couldnt think straight..i kept triple checking if i had forgotten anything because i was in no state to think straight. i usually have everything organised before a trip. the call put me in a spin.
but yes baby-lish is on the way.
big breath...
as much as i'd like to think i'd make a great dad...i still get a cringe in my gut whenever i think about it. its earth shattering because it has the potential to changethe course of my life in a big way.
i love my travels, and it would definately put a dent into my current itinerary. i hadnt planned on going to Sydney next year, but she-lish always wanted to have it back home.
its earth shattering because as much as i like being here in Dubai, i dont see my kids being raised here. which would mean that i wont be here in long term. i never set a time..1 year , 2 years , 5 years, 10 years..not sure..but now i guess i have a deadline. 5 years before baby-lish is in school?
and although the news wasnt a surprise..i was just knocked senseless with the news. im still trying to have it sink it some more knowing that ill be bringing in another being into this world.
thanks for the well wishes everyone...sorry if i freaked you all out..im still freaked out myselfPosted 12-12-2008 at 04:07 AM by dlish
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Yay baby-lish! CONGRATULATIONS!!! You're awesome, you'll make a cool dad. You're just in shock.
You'll be FINE. Change can be a very good thing. Embrace the moment, you are bringing your child into the world. May they grow to become a unique and wonderful individual!
*HUGS*Posted 12-12-2008 at 04:15 AM by little_tippler
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Mahbrouk, dlish!!!
That said, I can completely understand all of the stuff you are going through... I would feel that way as well, if a baby suddenly happened into ktsp's and my lives (esp. on birth control). It would freak me out, because I like to think that I control when these big things happen... but control isn't everything. Ktsp and I are taking one big round-the-world trip here in the next few months, since we anticipate going through the same changes you are, in the near future... gotta get this out of our system. Travel now while you can!!
I wish you and she-lish all the best in adjusting to this news, as it is a process (and thank goodness you've got 9 months for that!). And hey, the parents and in-laws can finally get off your back about those grandkids, right?
(That would be one benefit for us, haha.)Posted 12-12-2008 at 05:23 AM by abaya
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congrats!!!!!Posted 12-12-2008 at 05:31 AM by Cynthetiq
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Letting out a big cheer for you!Posted 12-12-2008 at 06:04 AM by Halx 
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abaya.. you speak it like a true lebanese.
just imagine.. ive been married for 7 years with no kids..imagine the gossip, the lies, the talk between our folks and anguish...now add the lebanese element to it and you have one helluva mix.
i still have the peru trek in the pipeline in early july...man its cutting it close though...not sure what ill do now.
she-lish has been sick in the mornings. spoke to dad not long ago, so ill call she-lish when she gets up sydney time.
its the unknown that im afraid of. i hate not knowing. im an info freak... all this makes me useless.
tipp- i have a 1.5 year old nephew who doesnt like me all that much... it makes me think about what if this would replicate with my own child.
thanks cynth...you picked it!
now..baby names...oh godPosted 12-12-2008 at 06:11 AM by dlish
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You'll be fine! I think you'll be a great dad. The important thing is to be there--and that doesn't mean always being there, but being there when important stuff is happening, and to be present with your child when you are there (giving them your full attention as much as possible). One big thing: Don't sweat the small stuff. I see a lot of parents tear their hair out over tiny things that go wrong. It's not worth it. Pick your battles.
If you can remember to pick your battles, you'll do well. Congratulations.Posted 12-12-2008 at 07:35 AM by snowy
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So, now we know how the bed got broken
Yes, your world is permanently changed... for the better! You have a world full of experiences to bring to this new adventure. You'll do just fine.
Your child will have very good people for parents. That counts for everything. Besides that, you've got a world-wide support group already in place. Our experiences and friendship are at your beck and call. Don't hesitate to reach out when you feel the need.
Congrats to you and She-lish. Prepare to have your hearts filled with more love than you ever imagined!Posted 12-12-2008 at 08:27 AM by grumpyolddude
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Oh, I can DEFINITELY imagine the Lebanese element.
(It's even stronger than the Thai one!)... particularly after 7 years of marriage. Shit man, after 1 year of marriage people were all over us for not having a kid in the oven yet!! Grrr.
How does she-lish feel about all this? Is she excited, or feeling the same way you are? Personally, I would be TOTALLY in your shoes, except even more freaked out because it would be my own body that would be getting inflated and tortured to make this thing (that's my perspective right now, lol)... so yeah, I definitely hear ya.
But do take the full 9 months to get up to speed, you and she-lish... and you'll be alright. I don't really like kids either (no idea if they like me or not), but I've heard that it's a whole different ballgame when it's your own. As for Peru... well, I guess that depends on your wife and how she feels, how the pregnancy goes, etc. Any way of rescheduling the trip?Posted 12-12-2008 at 09:30 AM by abaya
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Ooh... congrats!Posted 12-12-2008 at 09:33 AM by Baraka_Guru
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congratulations on the lishis-babe!
you do realize you're going to be okay, right?Posted 12-12-2008 at 12:11 PM by noodle
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A toast to potency!
Posted 12-12-2008 at 01:20 PM by mrklixx
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