Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community - Blogs - genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/ en Sun, 22 Nov 2009 06:57:07 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/images/insignia/misc/rss.jpg Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community - Blogs - genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/ busy in a tizzy http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3900-busy-tizzy.html Sat, 03 Oct 2009 04:21:36 GMT I miss you, TFP!

Teaching + studies are keeping me on my toes this semester.

Enjoying teaching, loving the EM stuff, but having a rough time keeping up. I've been told by the other TA's that I'm on top of things, but I haven't found much time to breathe.

Just wanted to take a moment to tell people that I miss being a part of things - wish I could get to know all these great new faces. ]]> genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3900-busy-tizzy.html 9-11-09 http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3697-9-11-09.html Fri, 11 Sep 2009 14:00:48 GMT Happy Birthday, Martian. Thank you for giving me something to smile about on this date. Life is busy. Happy Birthday, Martian.
Thank you for giving me something to smile about on this date.

Life is busy. ]]> genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3697-9-11-09.html Work ethic? http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3610-work-ethic.html Tue, 01 Sep 2009 01:05:25 GMT I expected this class to be a lot of work. But what I didn't expect is to deal with the other students' constant complaining about said work.

It's actually less time-intensive than I anticipated, and far more simple.
I keep telling myself that they'll stop complaining once they get into the swing of things. But then again, I did that last semester and it only grew worse as the semester continued.

I don't understand the lack of work ethic around here.
It's starting to get on my nerves. Maybe I will choose a different institution for my PHD. It's a good place to learn a diverse set of skills quickly, but I don't find it academically stimulating. Perfect for a master's, which is what I'm working toward at the moment. ]]> genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3610-work-ethic.html Song http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3525-song.html Sun, 23 Aug 2009 02:05:14 GMT My sister has fallen in love with a new children's song from church, and she decided to send me an e-mail with the lyrics and a link to the audio of the song.
I have been having problems recently trying to define my personal role in life. Reading these lyrics only made me more frustrated.

Here are those lyrics.


Our Father has a family. It’s me!
It’s you, all others too: we are His children.
He sent each one of us to earth, through birth,
To live and learn here in fam’lies.

God gave us families to help us become what He wants us to be—
This is how He shares His love, for the fam’ly is of God.

A father’s place is to preside, provide,
To love and teach the gospel to his children.
A father leads in fam’ly prayer to share
Their love for Father in Heaven.

God gave us families to help us become what He wants us to be—
This is how He shares His love, for the fam’ly is of God.

A mother’s purpose is to care, prepare,
To nurture and to strengthen all her children.
She teaches children to obey, to pray,
To love and serve in the fam’ly.

God gave us families to help us become what He wants us to be—
This is how He shares His love, for the fam’ly is of God.

I’ll love and serve my family and be
A good example to each fam’ly member.
And when I am a mom or dad, so glad,
I’ll help my fam’ly remember:

God gave us families to help us become what He wants us to be—
This is how He shares His love, for the fam’ly is of God.

It's the little things about the lyrics that get to me.
"...when I am a mom or dad..." there's the expectation to have children.
"A father’s place is to preside, provide..." should this male-dominated role really be reinforced with children? Do these children understand that the word preside means "to exercise authority or control"?
And the entire definition of the mother's role rubs me wrong:
" A mother’s purpose is to care, prepare,
To nurture and to strengthen all her children.
She teaches children to obey, to pray,
To love and serve in the fam’ly."

What does it really mean to "Serve in the family"? Teach children "to obey"?

Thanks for listening. ]]> genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3525-song.html Michigan http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3468-michigan.html Sun, 16 Aug 2009 01:34:04 GMT Tt and I have enjoyed a lovely week in a cottage on the shore of Lake Michigan. We haven't had cell phone service or an internet connection - just relatives and sunsets. I'm currently outside a closed bagel shop using their free wireless internet. We're going back to civilization tomorrow. ]]> genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3468-michigan.html away for a bit http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3392-away-bit.html Sat, 08 Aug 2009 14:34:55 GMT I won't be around to wish people happy birthday. So, sorry if you don't get a message from me on your special day.

I'm taking a vacation from the TFP for a week.
No drama. Just burnt out and need to step away. ]]> genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3392-away-bit.html Long Run http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3381-long-run.html Fri, 07 Aug 2009 13:25:42 GMT Yesterday I ran. I ran slowly, but I ran well. The route? 4.5 miles to a golf course, 4.5 miles home. The last 2 miles I walked. Next time I will run those last two miles. Yesterday I ran.
I ran slowly, but I ran well.
The route?
4.5 miles to a golf course, 4.5 miles home.
The last 2 miles I walked.

Next time I will run those last two miles. ]]> genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3381-long-run.html Expanding Clan! http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3303-expanding-clan.html Fri, 31 Jul 2009 15:34:00 GMT My brother is engaged! He's going to marry his sweetheart of a woman in a private ceremony next month - he's bringing her to meet the family this weekend. I wish I were in California to meet her, too. The most exciting part of the deal? I get two more nieces!!! ]]> genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3303-expanding-clan.html When to Step Away? http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3284-when-step-away.html Thu, 30 Jul 2009 04:45:28 GMT This place is far too interesting. I keep finding new threads to read and enjoy. But there comes a time when I must pack it up and go to bed. I thought it would be when my laptop's battery ran out, but then I just logged into the desktop and kept on playing away.

I should really sleep.
Someone wants cuddles. ]]> genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3284-when-step-away.html Bunny love http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3230-bunny-love.html Fri, 24 Jul 2009 14:21:55 GMT Cinnabunny is a delightful companion. Just a few examples of her adorable-loveyness. Image: http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3203/2367858500_50760c97fc.jpg after a bath. Image: http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2004/2396810185_9d22dc54af.jpg a fluffy break from video games Image:... Cinnabunny is a delightful companion. Just a few examples of her adorable-loveyness.



after a bath.


a fluffy break from video games


hiding in her basket


just chillin'


crunching some numbers


snow bunned ]]> genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3230-bunny-love.html Is being a thread-killer a bad thing? http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3223-being-thread-killer-bad-thing.html Thu, 23 Jul 2009 15:12:15 GMT Suzz recently said this in this thread - link -
Quote:
Originally Posted by Suzz04 View Post
(trying to start getting into posting more but i feel sometimes i kill out a thread since i'm the last one and no one else says anything else lol)
Suzz isn't the only one who feels this way. This is a frequent concern voiced to the staff, but I'd like to throw some thoughts out there - and maybe get some opinions on the matter. I'm wondering if it's such a bad thing to be a thread-killer. First, let's look at our definition of "thread-killer": someone who responds to a number of threads and later looks back to realize that no one has posted after them.

A conversation started winding down long ago, the fire of enthusiasm shared by the initial thread-starters is low and fading. Then you come along and bring closure. You sum things up, bringing the often dissonant comments of others to a brief reconciliation. No one wants to touch the thread after this. Or perhaps you share a gem of insight that is meaningful for you to share, but others somehow miss the note. These threads can later be necro'd when others come along who wish to further debate the topic.

There are worse ways to end a thread. Oftentimes if there is no true closure, there is instead a senseless bickering that develops - a detour from the original direction of the thread that begins to show the nasty side of one poster or another. These threads are less likely to be resurrected for additional conversation, rather they are often locked or worse: moved to some dark recess of dead-land where no public eye will see it again.

Get out there and kill those threads, Suzz (and those like Suzz). I'd much rather come across your carefully-chosen words than some alternatives. ]]> genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3223-being-thread-killer-bad-thing.html Best http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3213-best.html Wed, 22 Jul 2009 10:57:43 GMT I seem to perform best when I wake at 4am. Something about the world being silent makes me giddy. Arriving at lab at 5am, after the night-owls leave, before the day crowd shows up - the floor is mine save a scarce janitor. Radio blasting, oblivious to the rest of the world's slumber - I work at a faster pace knowing there are no surprises beyond what is immediately at hand.

I need to do this more often. ]]> genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3213-best.html Had to blog it, too http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3196-had-blog-too.html Mon, 20 Jul 2009 16:04:33 GMT Tt and I enjoy traveling. Road trips are a little slice of heaven. Train rides and backpacking are even more delightful. There are places that we stayed along the way for a few brief days (or even hours) where we felt immediately at home and would love to return. A list of these... Carnia... Tt and I enjoy traveling. Road trips are a little slice of heaven. Train rides and backpacking are even more delightful. There are places that we stayed along the way for a few brief days (or even hours) where we felt immediately at home and would love to return. A list of these...

Carnia


Cerbere


Avignon


Vienna


Munich


Western Montana


St. Louis


Malibu



And I've felt at home here, would love to have an opportunity to show Tt...

A view from the top of Mount Rotui, Moorea


We currently live in one of those places we stopped by for a brief visit and felt at home: southwestern Ohio.


We would like to keep moving, keep traveling - it seems every time we get out there, we find a new place we could easily call home - a place of immediate comfort in a sea of foreign confusion. I hope we find many more places like these in our lifetimes. ]]> genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3196-had-blog-too.html fleshlight convo http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3191-fleshlight-convo.html Mon, 20 Jul 2009 05:38:44 GMT I was chatting with an old friend about his recent breakup. I recommended he get a fleshlight and linked him to the conversation we were having about them on the board. Opened up the floodgates - discussing how the last six months of his relationship there wasn't any sex, how he loved her and how he really wanted to settle down with her and start a family, all she wanted was anything but him - it just sounded so unhealthy.

He didn't know how comfortable I was talking about sex before tonight. He's a good friend of my husband's as well - the three of us have been friends for over a decade. He might bump around the forum some, we'll see. I kinda doubt it - he didn't seem especially interested. I will link him to pertinent discussions in the future, though. ]]> genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3191-fleshlight-convo.html Breathe out http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3150-breathe-out.html Wed, 15 Jul 2009 18:27:22 GMT I just listened to my friend defend his master's thesis. It was a small room of friendly faces. Faculty and fellow graduate students in attendance showed their support by asking substantial questions, to which he responded with enthusiasm. I will go through this same procedure at some point next year. I'm a bit nervous at the thought. But mainly I'm bummed that my friend is leaving. I hardly had an opportunity to spend time with him, aside from running into one another in the lab and spending a weekend together for a conference. He is done with his Masters degree, so he's moving on.

When I interviewed in 2008, he was the one who picked Tt and I up from the airport and showed us around town. Our advisor picked him specifically from our lab because we're "the same type." His personality is lively, inquisitive, and energetic. He's from California - grew up in Berkeley/Oakland, where I attended school. Proudly homosexual, yet clings to his Mormon faith - a church I walked away from yet thoroughly understand. We relate to each other far more than I expected. I feel I have found and now will lose a potential lifelong friend. I did not make enough of an effort to spend time with him to develop a strong friendship. My stupid introversion and antisocial ways have prevented me from getting to know him more. I have no idea how our lab dynamic will change with him no longer there to question. I will miss my friend.

Stupid tears, go away. ]]> genuinegirly http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/blogs/genuinegirly/3150-breathe-out.html