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I feel really good about empowering my step-daughter with options for her future. From talking to her over the past several months, she is confused and unsure what she wants from her future. This is understandable since she is 18. Her mom is insisting that she stay in school, but JJ and I don't agree. Why continue to throw away money on classes that she isn't going to use because she continues to change majors? Also, if you ask her what she wants to do, she wants to teach yoga and is very interested in piercing and tattooing. If that is what she wants to do, she isn't going to learn that in college. Sure, they aren't conservative choices, but people do those things. So, who are we to stop her from making her life choices?
I came up with 2 ideas and she was very excited and appreciative about them. She's going to consider them carefully over the next month or so.
One is to come live in Chicago. We'd support her for a few months while she got situated. There are endless opportunities here for her.
The other is that we'd drive her to California where her grandparents would help her out until she gets situated. They have a huge ranch that she could live on with little overhead. Since we don't drive anymore, but can't sell our vehicle, we'd leave it with her. She'd have the San Fransisco area and Sacramento to explore and find something that suits her. Plus, if she decided to go back to college, it will be cheaper than she's paying now once she has established residency there.
I don't know what she'll choose and I told her she could decide whatever she wanted, even if it was backpacking across the country working at communes, and we'd support her. I really don't care as long as she's happy. She's been through a lot of shit and I love her dearly. It is hard to put into words how I feel right now, but I think my heart has grown a size after talking to her. She is growing into a woman and she makes me so proud.
I came up with 2 ideas and she was very excited and appreciative about them. She's going to consider them carefully over the next month or so.
One is to come live in Chicago. We'd support her for a few months while she got situated. There are endless opportunities here for her.
The other is that we'd drive her to California where her grandparents would help her out until she gets situated. They have a huge ranch that she could live on with little overhead. Since we don't drive anymore, but can't sell our vehicle, we'd leave it with her. She'd have the San Fransisco area and Sacramento to explore and find something that suits her. Plus, if she decided to go back to college, it will be cheaper than she's paying now once she has established residency there.
I don't know what she'll choose and I told her she could decide whatever she wanted, even if it was backpacking across the country working at communes, and we'd support her. I really don't care as long as she's happy. She's been through a lot of shit and I love her dearly. It is hard to put into words how I feel right now, but I think my heart has grown a size after talking to her. She is growing into a woman and she makes me so proud.
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Unconditional love, respect and acceptance... I think those are so important for a young woman, as your stepdaughter. You and JJ should really be proud that you are great parents.
And by the way.... CA's not so bad. I hear that the northern part of CA is actually quite nice!
Posted 03-29-2009 at 06:35 PM by Taja
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You're so awesome.
Yeah, I hear Northern California is nice, too. It's so nice it's where I decided to grow up.Posted 03-29-2009 at 06:53 PM by JumpinJesus
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She's lucky to have a stepmom like you shesus--we all need a cheerleader, especially when we're young and facing tough choices.
I like the yoga teacher idea.Posted 03-29-2009 at 07:34 PM by snowy
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I think what you're doing is admirable. I can't see the rest of the individual so I can't say that the individual is a fuck up or even going to be on a path of damnation.
But, I do wish that someone pushed me a little harder to do the right things. I'd be further along in my career, I'd have more opportunities available to me because I'd have a degree. For some reason, any kind of certification spooks me to no avail. I probably could pass just about any test thrown at me, heck even the FSWE, a test supposedly harder than the bar asked me to apply again because I was very close on my first try.
My only saving grace was having a marketable natural skill that pulled me away from college, it was a choice of do I make $1,200 today or do I go to class? I consider myself very lucky, like vegas lucky.Posted 03-30-2009 at 04:59 PM by Cynthetiq
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