Fashionable people doing questionable things
Well, hi there.
ACE: Things are going very well in the dating department. We are still kind of fooling around physically and we are strangely close in every other aspect. We seem to have everything in common. Our backgrounds are similar (uninvolved parents who had us way too young, accelerated schooling, etc) all the way down to small, ridiculous stuff (she and I practiced kissing on Aladdin/Jasmine respectively as little kids). It was freightening at first but now it's common place that we have a lot in common ("I bought you mint tea because I knew it was your favorite", "I told you that", "No.").
At the same time we have enough differences that it makes our dynamic interesting and enticing. Most importantly, with those commonalities, as well as our differences, we just seem to click. More so then anyone else I've ever met; I'm hoping that continues.
WORK: Well folks, I'm almost at my wits end with working for family. My step-father owns a successful commercial and residential contracting firm. He mostly sub-contracts out but owns a few subsidiaries that he uses in other situations. Everything with him is business; down to birthday plans. I've known this my whole life and it's never been easy. I've been working for him off and on for 7 years. I get paid next to nothing (let's say the pay scale of an average 18 year old) but I play a major role in the company (the job of a 45 year old). I worked 125 hours for 11 days straight.
The problem isn't the money, but rather the lack of respect. I get treated like a punching bag for Mike and his erratic and manic behavior. Nothing I do is good enough; and when it is it's simply within the moment, and two days later I'm back to being the 14 year old who used to pretend to be sick so he could go see Dramafest. I'm tired of taking the brunt of his petty behavior.
I've talked to him several times about this, which, fittingly, he has a small fit about, dismisses me instantly, and spends the rest of the day taking shots at me, my work ethic, and my emotional state.
Oh, and then I have to go home with him. I can't take a day off because he knows where I sleep. And apparently I "owe him money" for the life he gave me. So I don't even get to keep most of my money.
This has been my life for as long as I can remember. My mother simply doesn't care and I'm okay with that. I'm a man. I can deal with my own problems, but it seems I've hit the ceiling on the things I can do. The problem is, if I quit then he'll cut me off, and I am financially dependent on him and my mother; I just spent a year at a very expensive school, in a very expensive city. I didn't want to have them pay for it but it was the only way in the end; I needed him. He'll take advantage of that.
THEATRE: Stuff is falling apart. My producer had a very surprise surgery the other day and is in bad shape. My space was stolen by the artistic director of Theatre New Brunswick; very intentionally (so if anyone knows C. Marshall, feel free to punch him in the face several times. I need work from him someday). Etc. Etc.
SCHOOL: I got an amazing scholarship to go write with Judith Thompson, Skye Gilbert, and Daniel McIvor at The University Of Guelph. But I wouldn't be doing any theatre in the first year. So I'm going to do my first year at STU, see where things go with Ace, see if I can resolve stuff with step-daddy, and enjoy the year. I'll miss the accessibility of Toronto but I think I need a year of familiarity.
That's it. Thanks for reading. Catch up session over.
taylor.
ACE: Things are going very well in the dating department. We are still kind of fooling around physically and we are strangely close in every other aspect. We seem to have everything in common. Our backgrounds are similar (uninvolved parents who had us way too young, accelerated schooling, etc) all the way down to small, ridiculous stuff (she and I practiced kissing on Aladdin/Jasmine respectively as little kids). It was freightening at first but now it's common place that we have a lot in common ("I bought you mint tea because I knew it was your favorite", "I told you that", "No.").
At the same time we have enough differences that it makes our dynamic interesting and enticing. Most importantly, with those commonalities, as well as our differences, we just seem to click. More so then anyone else I've ever met; I'm hoping that continues.
WORK: Well folks, I'm almost at my wits end with working for family. My step-father owns a successful commercial and residential contracting firm. He mostly sub-contracts out but owns a few subsidiaries that he uses in other situations. Everything with him is business; down to birthday plans. I've known this my whole life and it's never been easy. I've been working for him off and on for 7 years. I get paid next to nothing (let's say the pay scale of an average 18 year old) but I play a major role in the company (the job of a 45 year old). I worked 125 hours for 11 days straight.
The problem isn't the money, but rather the lack of respect. I get treated like a punching bag for Mike and his erratic and manic behavior. Nothing I do is good enough; and when it is it's simply within the moment, and two days later I'm back to being the 14 year old who used to pretend to be sick so he could go see Dramafest. I'm tired of taking the brunt of his petty behavior.
I've talked to him several times about this, which, fittingly, he has a small fit about, dismisses me instantly, and spends the rest of the day taking shots at me, my work ethic, and my emotional state.
Oh, and then I have to go home with him. I can't take a day off because he knows where I sleep. And apparently I "owe him money" for the life he gave me. So I don't even get to keep most of my money.
This has been my life for as long as I can remember. My mother simply doesn't care and I'm okay with that. I'm a man. I can deal with my own problems, but it seems I've hit the ceiling on the things I can do. The problem is, if I quit then he'll cut me off, and I am financially dependent on him and my mother; I just spent a year at a very expensive school, in a very expensive city. I didn't want to have them pay for it but it was the only way in the end; I needed him. He'll take advantage of that.
THEATRE: Stuff is falling apart. My producer had a very surprise surgery the other day and is in bad shape. My space was stolen by the artistic director of Theatre New Brunswick; very intentionally (so if anyone knows C. Marshall, feel free to punch him in the face several times. I need work from him someday). Etc. Etc.
SCHOOL: I got an amazing scholarship to go write with Judith Thompson, Skye Gilbert, and Daniel McIvor at The University Of Guelph. But I wouldn't be doing any theatre in the first year. So I'm going to do my first year at STU, see where things go with Ace, see if I can resolve stuff with step-daddy, and enjoy the year. I'll miss the accessibility of Toronto but I think I need a year of familiarity.
That's it. Thanks for reading. Catch up session over.
taylor.
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Respect, at the workplace lol, stop being silly. ... and his name is Mike, WOW!! Nostalgia comes rushing back. Had a Mike who hired me. A real arsehole. Only difference is he introduced me to working hard and not smart. The pay was expected. I earned the same as everyone else but the more you worked the more you earned and a vicious cycle was born.
I quit and went back to doing nothing and living off my mom cause I couldn't stand the lack of respect. I'm in the same cycle now that I'm in the US but at least I get respect.
Dude, you have a girlfriend, a home, going to school ... these are good things. Don't waste your time working 125 hrs. You have a life.
This is unsolicited advice coming from someone who doesn't practice what he preaches.Posted 07-17-2009 at 05:38 PM by Xerxys
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