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BabyBabeOolala · 10-24-2007, 10:46 PM

hey,
I'm 19 years old and recently becoming really interested in woman. I'm confused wheather or not i actualy like woman or if this is just a sexualy fantasy. If anyone has advice or feels the same way please let me know..

creepysusie · 10-24-2007, 10:55 PM

Hey,
Have you seen the Kinsey 6 scale? I personally don't believe that we are all either rigidly straight/gay/bisexual
I say if you like a woman, go for it
There is approximate a good couple billion people on earth and 1 person is your soul mate. Why discard half the population right there?

Hyacinthe · 10-25-2007, 04:40 AM

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There is approximate a good couple billion people on earth and 1 person is your soul mate. Why discard half the population right there?

That sums up how I feel about it completely!

Think about how hard it is to find someone that you really truly love, are you going to reject that person because they have the wrong plumbing?

My advice BabyBabeOolala is not to stress about it - maybe you're attracted to women maybe you're not - as long as they're nice women who will treat you right it doesn't matter much.

Jenna · 10-25-2007, 11:48 AM

I've been in your situation, the best thing to do is just not worry about. Who cares if you're straight? Who cares if you're bisexual? You don't need to have a straight forward answer.

I realized that my fantasy was reality, when I had sex with another woman. Not saying that's right for you, but it helped me sort some things out.

masfina · 11-19-2007, 07:20 AM

Hi. Newer member on here. My name is Cathy. Here's my quandary, of sorts... I have never dated a woman, though I am aware of my natural inclinations and call myself bi. But... I am 47 years old and have never dated a woman. Seems like the "scene" among women-women dating is that you gotta be "knowledgeable" or "seasoned"... I also don't drink or go to lesbian bars or whatever... Am not into that scene at all... OR you gotta spell women as 'womyn' [I concede.. that one probably my own homophobic stereotyping kicking in]... and I'm not into THAT either.

In the meantime, I date men, am frank about my bi-ness.. and try to accept that my one soul-mate [male or female] will come along when I am ready for it.

And.... Ironically... I have a desire to explore my fem side in other ways... Because I have set off folks' "gaydar" with my dress... I dress very tomboyish, have short hair, etc... So... have been labeled as lesbian by my appearance [other folks' stereotyping there].... which I'm not that either...lol..

Aw, heck... I am just getting over a shift with a guy from 'friends with benefits' to 'friends'... painful shift.. so... I imagine I won't be dating at all for some time.. Will be celibate.. So what does this make me.. straight, bi, gay, or... non...?

StellaLuna · 11-22-2007, 08:05 AM

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Originally Posted by masfina

So what does this make me.. straight, bi, gay, or... non...?

Normal. Totally normal.

masfina · 11-22-2007, 06:04 PM

"Normal. Totally normal."

Thank you. Very tired of label-constraints... Why I came here in the first place.

.. And so nice to know I'm not nuts.... or alone.

silvrdark · 12-09-2007, 11:45 PM

Not alone at all. Although I have always identified as being heterosexual, I have had fantasies involving women. I am probably somewhere in the middle of the Kinsey Scale. I have never crushed on women I have known personally, but I do find some women sexually attractive.

I think this is a normal thing. Just remember, the way you identify yourself as far as orientation is concerned is up to you. Be honest with yourself about how you feel, and don't let anyone label you or throw you in some bucket category.

IdolGirl · 12-16-2007, 08:34 PM

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Originally Posted by BabyBabeOolala

hey,
I'm 19 years old and recently becoming really interested in woman. I'm confused wheather or not i actualy like woman or if this is just a sexualy fantasy. If anyone has advice or feels the same way please let me know..

One way to find out is to try it out. If you like it, go for it. If you don't like it, mystery solved.

Don't worry about being gay, straight, or bi. Worry about being happy, and not the gender of the person who makes you feel that way.

10-24-2007, 10:46 PM	#1 (permalink)
BabyBabeOolala Upright Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Massachusetts	New Curious Bi hey, I'm 19 years old and recently becoming really interested in woman. I'm confused wheather or not i actualy like woman or if this is just a sexualy fantasy. If anyone has advice or feels the same way please let me know..

11-19-2007, 07:20 AM	#5 (permalink)
masfina Upright Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Louisville, KY... Via Boston, New Orleans, Chapel Hill, Kenya, seattle, and.. California cities.	Hi. Newer member on here. My name is Cathy. Here's my quandary, of sorts... I have never dated a woman, though I am aware of my natural inclinations and call myself bi. But... I am 47 years old and have never dated a woman. Seems like the "scene" among women-women dating is that you gotta be "knowledgeable" or "seasoned"... I also don't drink or go to lesbian bars or whatever... Am not into that scene at all... OR you gotta spell women as 'womyn' [I concede.. that one probably my own homophobic stereotyping kicking in]... and I'm not into THAT either. In the meantime, I date men, am frank about my bi-ness.. and try to accept that my one soul-mate [male or female] will come along when I am ready for it. And.... Ironically... I have a desire to explore my fem side in other ways... Because I have set off folks' "gaydar" with my dress... I dress very tomboyish, have short hair, etc... So... have been labeled as lesbian by my appearance [other folks' stereotyping there].... which I'm not that either...lol.. Aw, heck... I am just getting over a shift with a guy from 'friends with benefits' to 'friends'... painful shift.. so... I imagine I won't be dating at all for some time.. Will be celibate.. So what does this make me.. straight, bi, gay, or... non...? __________________ If you love someone... Set them free. - Sting

11-22-2007, 06:04 PM	#7 (permalink)
masfina Upright Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Louisville, KY... Via Boston, New Orleans, Chapel Hill, Kenya, seattle, and.. California cities.	"Normal. Totally normal." Thank you. Very tired of label-constraints... Why I came here in the first place. .. And so nice to know I'm not nuts.... or alone. __________________ If you love someone... Set them free. - Sting

10-24-2007, 10:55 PM	#2 (permalink)
creepysusie Tilted Join Date: Sep 2007	Hey, Have you seen the Kinsey 6 scale? I personally don't believe that we are all either rigidly straight/gay/bisexual I say if you like a woman, go for it There is approximate a good couple billion people on earth and 1 person is your soul mate. Why discard half the population right there?

10-25-2007, 11:48 AM	#4 (permalink)
Jenna Psycho Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Wisconsin	I've been in your situation, the best thing to do is just not worry about. Who cares if you're straight? Who cares if you're bisexual? You don't need to have a straight forward answer. I realized that my fantasy was reality, when I had sex with another woman. Not saying that's right for you, but it helped me sort some things out.

12-09-2007, 11:45 PM	#8 (permalink)
silvrdark Upright Join Date: Dec 2007	Not alone at all. Although I have always identified as being heterosexual, I have had fantasies involving women. I am probably somewhere in the middle of the Kinsey Scale. I have never crushed on women I have known personally, but I do find some women sexually attractive. I think this is a normal thing. Just remember, the way you identify yourself as far as orientation is concerned is up to you. Be honest with yourself about how you feel, and don't let anyone label you or throw you in some bucket category.