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getready52 · 03-30-2008, 07:04 PM

hello ladies i am 52 and been married to a wonderful man for 15 years and i love him very much.he told me a while back that he had always enjoyed wearing women's clothes.i didn't know how to react but told him o'k.since then i have let him buy a dress and all the things with it.i even put makeup on him and he actually looked pretty good.i told him if he was in a bar guy's would be after him/her.lol it didn't turn me on and we didn't make love the night that i dressed him up and i know he wanted to.what are your feelings on this and can anyone tell me how i could get turned on when he dresses up.i am trying to give him the pleasure of doing this because at least he finally was truthful with me about his fantasy.

thank you all for your time and help.
getready52

Shaindra · 03-30-2008, 08:06 PM

I think it's way cool that he trusted you enough to let you know his secret, and that you were able to help him fulfill it. I'd probably think it was a little odd at first, but I'd probably get into letting him have fun. You may even find that sharing this secret thrill gives you some added intimacy...after you get over the initial oddness of it.

As for how you get turned on? I don't know. I do know that you shouldn't have to feel something you don't feel. If it doesn't float your boat, it's OK. Your husband should understand. If it were me, I might try to engage in a little role-reversal role-playing.

XtinaHollywood · 04-04-2008, 12:53 AM

i agree, it's great that he's that comfortable with you...but i'm not sure if i could ever have sex with him again. i think the man is supposed to be a man and i don't know if i could ever look at him the same.

Kaimi · 04-05-2008, 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by XtinaHollywood

i agree, it's great that he's that comfortable with you...but i'm not sure if i could ever have sex with him again. i think the man is supposed to be a man and i don't know if i could ever look at him the same.

They have been married for 15 years so I am certain that factors in. I certainly could not toss away a worthy relationship over it. If it bothered me, I would tell him that it turned me off.

I do not know if I could handle someone who dressed fully as a female, though I am sure it would not bother me so much if he preferred womens undergarments. Then again, I have no experience with this and simply do not know.

jewels · 04-05-2008, 07:15 PM

Maybe undress him and dim the lights. Just knowing he's your man and it gets him off might eventually help it work for you.

I have a slight fetish for fabric so the idea of rubbing him against silky panties might work for me. :shrug: A thought, anyway.

genuinegirly · 04-08-2008, 06:19 PM

Interesting situation. Sounds like you're having fun dressing him up, which is neat. I've never found myself in such a situation, no tried and true advice to give.

But here's something you can try...

Undress him. Kiss him. Then see what moves you.

03-30-2008, 07:04 PM	#1 (permalink)
getready52 Upright Join Date: Dec 2007	husband in a dress hello ladies i am 52 and been married to a wonderful man for 15 years and i love him very much.he told me a while back that he had always enjoyed wearing women's clothes.i didn't know how to react but told him o'k.since then i have let him buy a dress and all the things with it.i even put makeup on him and he actually looked pretty good.i told him if he was in a bar guy's would be after him/her.lol it didn't turn me on and we didn't make love the night that i dressed him up and i know he wanted to.what are your feelings on this and can anyone tell me how i could get turned on when he dresses up.i am trying to give him the pleasure of doing this because at least he finally was truthful with me about his fantasy. thank you all for your time and help. getready52

03-30-2008, 08:06 PM	#2 (permalink)
Shaindra Crazy Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Massachusetts	I think it's way cool that he trusted you enough to let you know his secret, and that you were able to help him fulfill it. I'd probably think it was a little odd at first, but I'd probably get into letting him have fun. You may even find that sharing this secret thrill gives you some added intimacy...after you get over the initial oddness of it. As for how you get turned on? I don't know. I do know that you shouldn't have to feel something you don't feel. If it doesn't float your boat, it's OK. Your husband should understand. If it were me, I might try to engage in a little role-reversal role-playing. __________________ "Never regret something that once made you smile."

04-04-2008, 12:53 AM	#3 (permalink)
XtinaHollywood Upright Join Date: Apr 2008	i agree, it's great that he's that comfortable with you...but i'm not sure if i could ever have sex with him again. i think the man is supposed to be a man and i don't know if i could ever look at him the same. __________________ life is like a box of chocolates

04-05-2008, 07:15 PM	#5 (permalink)
jewels Eponymous Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: The Space Coast	Maybe undress him and dim the lights. Just knowing he's your man and it gets him off might eventually help it work for you. I have a slight fetish for fabric so the idea of rubbing him against silky panties might work for me. :shrug: A thought, anyway. __________________ Politics is applesauce. - Will Rogers

04-08-2008, 06:19 PM	#6 (permalink)
genuinegirly Force-Strong Moderator Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: 805	Interesting situation. Sounds like you're having fun dressing him up, which is neat. I've never found myself in such a situation, no tried and true advice to give. But here's something you can try... Undress him. Kiss him. Then see what moves you. __________________ "violence is no more or less real than non-violence. " roachboy