Getting back together with someone - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

soma · 10-18-2007, 08:02 AM

I've posted a fair deal in here about my failing relationship and need more advice. So after being broken up for about two weeks we decided that we want to get back together.

That's great but I know we both need to do things a lot differently. I can say that we are pretty imature and we didn't communicate enough. We would also get mad at each other over the dumbest shit and got over it by trying to piss each other off. Lots of bickering.

But we love each other and really want it to work. Advice? Thoughts?

ScottKuma · 10-18-2007, 08:35 AM

Stay true to your words & communicate. Best answer I can give.

Also, let the LITTLE things out before they bloom into big things. It's better to have a 5 minute little fight than a 3 day blow-up.

Cynthetiq · 10-18-2007, 08:36 AM

I'd say don't sweat the small stuff.

There are things that are just part of your personality that are who you are, and they may just need to be accepted as they are by the other party.

snowy · 10-18-2007, 10:18 AM

Remember the three strikes rule: If you break up three times...you're out.

Until then, work to make the changes you know are necessary to keep you both happy. But don't be afraid to walk away if necessary.

Plan9 · 10-18-2007, 01:42 PM

People don't change much, hoss.

We are very stubborn creatures.

Separation helps gain perspective.

But it doesn't change the problems.

nonplussed · 10-19-2007, 01:28 PM

I agree completely with Crompsin. Move on, my friend. Use the lessons you learned about communication and not sweating the small stuff on your next relationship. All concerned will be happier.

It's a wonderful thing that you honor your current relationship so much. But the pain you feel should tell you something. Like a shoe that doesn't fit, you should change it before it causes permanent injury.

10-18-2007, 08:02 AM	#1 (permalink)
soma Addict Location: USA	Getting back together with someone I've posted a fair deal in here about my failing relationship and need more advice. So after being broken up for about two weeks we decided that we want to get back together. That's great but I know we both need to do things a lot differently. I can say that we are pretty imature and we didn't communicate enough. We would also get mad at each other over the dumbest shit and got over it by trying to piss each other off. Lots of bickering. But we love each other and really want it to work. Advice? Thoughts? __________________ Having Girl Problems?

10-18-2007, 08:35 AM	#2 (permalink)
ScottKuma Insane Location: Maineville, OH	Stay true to your words & communicate. Best answer I can give. Also, let the LITTLE things out before they bloom into big things. It's better to have a 5 minute little fight than a 3 day blow-up. __________________ A government big enough to give you everything you want is big enough to take from you everything you have. -Gerald R. Ford GoogleMap Me

10-18-2007, 08:36 AM	#3 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY Blog Entries: 176	I'd say don't sweat the small stuff. There are things that are just part of your personality that are who you are, and they may just need to be accepted as they are by the other party. __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

10-18-2007, 10:18 AM	#4 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon Blog Entries: 282	Remember the three strikes rule: If you break up three times...you're out. Until then, work to make the changes you know are necessary to keep you both happy. But don't be afraid to walk away if necessary. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

10-18-2007, 01:42 PM	#5 (permalink)
Plan9 Hurt Locker Fan Location: Prime Self Blog Entries: 136	People don't change much, hoss. We are very stubborn creatures. Separation helps gain perspective. But it doesn't change the problems. __________________ "Silent and endless. The stars shine like the love of God… cold and remote."

10-19-2007, 01:28 PM	#6 (permalink)
nonplussed Tilted	I agree completely with Crompsin. Move on, my friend. Use the lessons you learned about communication and not sweating the small stuff on your next relationship. All concerned will be happier. It's a wonderful thing that you honor your current relationship so much. But the pain you feel should tell you something. Like a shoe that doesn't fit, you should change it before it causes permanent injury.