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Old 09-19-2008, 01:10 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Baby Hunter, still born on Sept. 19, 2008 at approximately 2am, was gonna grow up with older brother Hugh and the rest of our family, Hunter was a boy.

Your dad loves you, Hunter, good bye.
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Old 09-19-2008, 01:22 AM   #2 (permalink)
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My sincerest condolences. God be with you and rest his soul.

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Old 09-19-2008, 04:19 AM   #3 (permalink)
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that is terribly sad news.

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Old 09-19-2008, 05:17 AM   #4 (permalink)
 
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My deepest sympathies and condolences.

Keep your head up, and stay strong. Get plenty of hugs...they really help.
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Old 09-19-2008, 05:47 AM   #5 (permalink)
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I am very sorry to hear of your family's loss.
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Old 09-19-2008, 05:55 AM   #6 (permalink)
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My sincerest condolences.
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Old 09-19-2008, 06:29 AM   #7 (permalink)
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I am so sorry to hear this. You and your family will be in my thoughts.
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Old 09-19-2008, 10:06 AM   #8 (permalink)
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That is so awful, I cannot imagine your pain. I really hope you find the strength to lead your family through this hard time, my deepest sympathy to you.
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Old 09-19-2008, 12:14 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Sweet little one...

My sincerest condolences.
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Old 09-19-2008, 10:31 PM   #10 (permalink)
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thank you all for the kindest words, they really help, I've had some adversaries in my life and loss of a child is by far the most devastating of them all.

My parents lost my younger brother the same way and to this date they would not talk about it...
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Old 09-20-2008, 12:05 AM   #11 (permalink)
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I am so sorry, our prayers for your family
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Old 09-28-2008, 08:43 PM   #12 (permalink)
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We are jumping through hoops with the City to have Hunter cremated and bring him into our house, originally I thought about burying him in the backyard, but I kept having nightmares of my dead son complaining it's wet, dark and cold in the backyard, now I am determined to bring his remains into the house, since the baby was so little I am not sure if the ashes would amount to anything.

Does anyone know of any support group for this sort of thing? After arguing at the Supreme Court of Canada a human rights case at the age of 28 for the Office of Attorney General, I thought I was ready to face any challenges in life, and I've had some serious adversaries in my life (I am 37 now), but loss of a child is easily the most devastating of them all.

thank you all again for your kind words, my wife is in denial of the whole thing and wouldn't talk about it, and I am barely hanging on to carry myself as each day goes by
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Old 09-28-2008, 08:58 PM   #13 (permalink)
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The only thing I have to say other then you have my thoughts and prayers is that it is fine to not be okay about it. Do what you need to help you cope.
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Old 09-28-2008, 09:43 PM   #14 (permalink)
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You have our sincererist condolences.
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Old 09-29-2008, 05:23 AM   #15 (permalink)
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[...]but loss of a child is easily the most devastating of them all.
Just a word of advice from me, if you need to talk to people, then do it. Don't hold it in, it only makes things worse. It is a great loss indeed, but not allowing other people to comfort you by keeping it in won't bring much of coping.

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss.
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Old 09-29-2008, 08:43 AM   #16 (permalink)
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I'm assuming you're in Canada?
Check with the Canuck Place and see if they have support or can refer you to support in your area.
Most hospitals in the US have a perinatal and antenatal loss support groups.
You're not alone... unfortunately.
Spend time with family. It's very important.
And there is NOTHING wrong with keeping ashes in your home, close to you.
I worked with a single mom that put her child's ashes inside a Build-A-Bear so that she could take him with her wherever she went and could feel part of him was still there.
Some wear ashes around their necks in a little vial.
Grief is rarely wrong. But it can be complicated. Good for you for reaching out.
Sorry, I'm a pediatric Hospice social worker and this is one of my soapboxes... making sure people realize that everyone grieves in their own way and helping connect families to groups that will ensure their grief remains healthy.
My thoughts go out to you.
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Old 09-29-2008, 08:54 AM   #17 (permalink)
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Old 09-29-2008, 08:59 AM   #18 (permalink)
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I can only echo everyone else and extend my sincerest condolences. I hope you and yours deal with the pain in the healthiest and easiest way possible.
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Old 10-01-2008, 10:54 PM   #19 (permalink)
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Build a Bear is a great idea, I will probably do that,

thank you for your kind and constructive thoughts


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I'm assuming you're in Canada?
Check with the Canuck Place and see if they have support or can refer you to support in your area.
Most hospitals in the US have a perinatal and antenatal loss support groups.
You're not alone... unfortunately.
Spend time with family. It's very important.
And there is NOTHING wrong with keeping ashes in your home, close to you.
I worked with a single mom that put her child's ashes inside a Build-A-Bear so that she could take him with her wherever she went and could feel part of him was still there.
Some wear ashes around their necks in a little vial.
Grief is rarely wrong. But it can be complicated. Good for you for reaching out.
Sorry, I'm a pediatric Hospice social worker and this is one of my soapboxes... making sure people realize that everyone grieves in their own way and helping connect families to groups that will ensure their grief remains healthy.
My thoughts go out to you.
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Old 10-01-2008, 11:18 PM   #20 (permalink)
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Sending you and your family comforting thoughts.
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Old 10-04-2008, 02:28 AM   #21 (permalink)
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