Plan9

We pay your premiums! ISN'T THAT ENOUGH?! CAN'T WE HAVE OUR LIPSTICK LESBIANS?!

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Man, this would totally be a great script for sexploitation-twisted Memento movie.

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Uh, cheating is bad. Don't do it. With whatever gender and/or species.

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Baraka_Guru

For the record, real lesbians make great drinking buddies.... Just keep them away from your girl....like....your other drinking buddies....

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curiousbear

It cant be cheating as I had already told her I would be fine with such a possibility
I think it could be penis factor. It could be because I am very curious about bigirls and lesbos

LordEden

I have walked in on my gf with another girl in my bed. I joined in. We had also shared a girl before so this is not under the same reason as the OP suggested. We both knew this girl and had talked about trying to get her into bed. I came home one day from work and went into the room to find two young ladies naked and waiting to scrub me off in the shower so they could ravish me.

Now if I didn't know... One head would say "2x BOOBIES!" and the other head would go "hey, wait, what?". I don't know what I would do. Mostly likely try to join then when I couldn't, I would get pissed/make a scene/break her shit as I leave.

Cheating is cheating, even if the boobies factor is doubled.

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Aphrodisios

It depends on the girl and relationship. If she claimed to be monogamous when we started dating then I would have a problem with it because she betrayed her sense of morality, and lied to me. If she was polyamorous or a swinger and we talked about it from the beginning I would not have a problem with it. As long as I know she is in love with me and isn't spending more time with others than me. I guess it also depends on who she was with and if she knew they didn't have any std's.

I would say the same for being with other guys as well. It depends on her, her sense of morality, and the type of relationship. Either way though if it's not monogamous it would be nice to know who she is sleeping with before walking in to find her.

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braisler

I agree with many others here that cheating is cheating whether it is with a man or a woman. If I walked in on my wife being intimate with another person it would be devastating. I guess what would bother me most about it is that I'm a very sexually open person and she knows that. If she wants to have sex with me and another person of either gender, I'd go for it. If she wants to have sex solo with another person... that is more cause for pause, but I'd still talk with her about it.

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minim

Interesting thread. I think cheating is cheating regardless of the gender (I'm female and bi). The other day my husband made an offhand remark that if I wanted to "keep the sheets warm" with another woman when he was away, he'd be OK with that. I'm not sure if he was serious. My reaction to this was threefold.

1. Wait. What?

2. Hmm. I do kind of miss women...

3. But it wouldn't be a good idea. It's not like taking a vibrator to bed, there is a whole other human being involved and potential feelings on both sides (or three sides, if he realizes after the fact that it DOES bother him). Sleeping with a woman wouldn't just be some kind of experiment for me.

At any rate - I would have a hard time being with another woman WITHOUT considering it cheating, and it would be weird to me if he didn't consider it cheating. (And almost slightly patronizing, like sleeping with a woman doesn't "count"?)

Anormalguy

That's a great point, and I know that some guys feel that way. I'm not sure why, maybe they feel more secure knowing that they're not competing with another penis. Yet many guys would be very hurt if their wife/gf left them for another woman.

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n0nsensical

I'd have the same reaction for anyone, first: disappointment that I wasn't asked or included, who knows, I might have been all for it. :P At least if it were just about the sex. Anyway, cheating means the end of the relationship because one or both partners obviously need something different.

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Plan9

Is the sign-up sheet coming around?
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Hey, don't stereotype lesbians. They don't just think with their clit.

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m0rpheus

I have and I'm okay with it. It was something we had discussed previously and she knew I'd be okay with it so I guess it wasn't really cheating though.
If it happened again? I'd probably do the same thing. Go sleep in the spare bedroom, or occupy myself in other ways. Wait until either the other girl left for the night or when she leaves the next morning and then go have lots and lots of sex. That's part of the deal, she can do what she wants with girls and doesn't need my permission. She does have to either let me know about it beforehand if possible, after if not (like the next morning). I am going to want details, I am going to get turned on and I am going to want sex.
If she didn't let me know? THEN I would be pissed.

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Blue Fish

Nope, I would never accept this and it would destroy my family. Plus, I don't think I would ever be attractive to a woman who thought this was a good idea. Wait, isn't this a mans dream?

Plan9

Not really. A man's dream would be two women paying attention to him. And not just sex. I'd imagine it would involve a large screen television, a nice steak, and whole lot of mouth-not-open.

In the words of my misogynist best friend: "Get the hell back in that kitchen, woman... and I'd best not catch you voting in there."

(j/k)

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LordEden

You know after I broke up with her, she probably made a sign-up sheet for that black hole she called a vagina.

Now, I've found threesomes to be a novility thing,great to brag about to your friends over beers, but in theory someone is getting left out. I don't think I'll try for one again, I actually turned down one a few years later cause I didn't think the girlfriend I was dating could handle it. That and I think she would have went to bat for the other team.

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ncgti

Agreed

Plan9

You sir... are a smart man. Most of life is about merit badge novelty crap. You've done your little kooky dance and now you've decided one woman is more than enough.

Haha... black hole. Heh. I like to refer to it as the "gaping maw" myself.

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Terrell

Reason to terminate the relationship in my opinion. Trust would be violated, and the issue of STDs comes into play as well, it would be worse IMO if it were a guy, because the issue of pregnancy also comes into play, but it would be bad all around. Girl on girl is nice in a good porno or fantasy, but I don't want a woman I'm in a relationship having sex with others in reality.